"On the wedding day, because of 10,000 door fees, I destroyed my marriage by myself." What do you think?

At the end of the year, everyone began to plan to return to my hometown. Going home for the New Year has become the most arduous expectations of many migrant workers who leave their hometown, but for some young people, they do not like the New Year because they will become their own New Year. In the "criticism meeting", the seven aunts and eight aunts sat together to fight for marriage together.

At the end of the year, the most busiest person in each place is the matchmaker. She is busy with the handsome men and handsome women around them to create a beautiful marriage for them. Wedding, this not only looks lively, but also adds a lot of joy to the taste of the year. Speaking of getting married, I have to mention the related gifts related to it.
M mentioning this colorful gift, I am a bag. In recent years, there will always be a lot of news about the price of sky -high prices, and there are also news that cheats marriage, and even the news of temporarily changing hexagrams and ingenuity. Every time I see such news, I am always thinking: How long can such a marriage last?
If the last marriage is blown, how happy the money you get? The formation of marriage should be based on emotional basis. There is no emotion, and only trading marriage is destined to be a tragedy.
The "scandal" about the "scandals" of Cai Li did not want to write anymore, but the reader Wang Zhe's submission made me really annoyed. He and his loved girlfriend had survived his parents' opposition, survived the high -quality gift, but finally Falling on 10,000 yuan opening fee.
Perhaps some people think that these 10,000 yuan is nothing. Those who have been survived in front of them, why no longer persist? I think the "opening fee" of 10,000 yuan should be the last straw that crushes the camel.
Wang Zhe and his girlfriend A Mei are high school classmates. After graduating from high school, the two did not contact again. Until the meeting in the same city, Wang Zhe was a courier. When he was delivered that day, he saw a familiar one. The name, he subconsciously thought it was his high school classmate A Mei, who thought it was impossible for a while, but when two people met, Wang Zhe and Amei were very surprised.
It, the two people met again after going around.
Later, Wang Zhe and A Mei talked about love. At first, Amei did not tell his parents about his love. It was not until her parents forced Amei to meet each other. After knowing that Mei's mother knew, the first sentence asked: "Daughter, what does his parents do, do he have money at home?" Facing a series of questions from his mother, Ame had to answer truthfully.
A Mei's mother knows that Wang Zhe's parents are just ordinary workers, and their family conditions are average. They immediately expressed their opposition, but Amei was unwilling to give up. Come down.
In later, Amei's parents made concessions because they knew from Amei's mouth to buy a house, and Wang Zhe strongly requested to add Amei's name. For the just after buying the house, For the Wang family, it is already full of debt.
In this section of bones, Amei's parents also proposed 50,000 gifts. In order to be able to set this family affairs as soon as possible, the father and mother had to borrow it around and got 50,000 yuan. Freedom.
Man who agreed to get married at the end of the year, but during the Mid -Autumn Festival, the father and mother received the faith of the matchmaker again, and Amei's parents suddenly increased the gift to 100,000, which made it difficult for the father and mother to accept However, the attitude of the woman's family is very determined. If she does not get a 100,000 color gift, then she will retire. Finally, the helpless queen's mother has to take the jewelry of her ancestors, so that she can be considered as 100,000 colorful gifts.
has never made any moths after taking these colorful gifts.
accompanied by Andy Lau's song "Today", Wang Zhe wore neat suites, holding the bouquets that had been prepared in his hand, and led the welcome team to the bride's house. For customs and ceremonies, the groom needs to "call" the boudoir of the new lady, and you can use a red envelope to open it. At this time, Wang Zhe took out a red envelope from his pocket, which contained 2,000 yuan inside, because the custom was in the custom. There are no regulations, and it is possible to be a colorful head.
Is when Wang Zhe stuffed the red envelope in, Amei's mother came from it: "You can also take a shot of 2000 yuan, and if you don't get 10,000 door fees, you want to pick up my daughter." When he heard this, Wang Zhe thought it was a joke, and his eyes were gone. The people inside were unmoved. At this time, Wang Zhe understood that they asked for the 10,000 door to open the door.
. When I think of these people's opposite, Wang Zhe said no place. He said angrily: "Lottery rose from 50,000 to 100,000, I endured it, and now it costs 10,000 to open the door fee. Your home is your home. Did you live in the eyes of Qian? The door opening fee is 2000. If you open the door, I will pick up the bride. If you do n’t open the door, I will not end this marriage. " : "Good boy, before picking up, I dare to threaten me. Home.
It finished Wang Zhe's contribution, I have to say that this mother like Amei has been poured in eight life. To say conscience, Wang Zhe's family can do this. I think it is very good. I do n’t know if you pay attention to this detail. The house of the father and mother spent money to buy, which is written on the names of Wang Zhe and Amei. How many parents can do it?
The on the other hand to see what Amei's parents did. At first, I had abandoned Wang Zhe's family. I did not agree with this family relationship. Later, I knew that the real estate certificate had the name of her daughter. When he knew that Wang's debt was tired, he insisted on 50,000 gifts, and later added to 100,000. The most angry is that on the day of marriage, I still wanted to fish for another, asking for the opening fee of 10,000 yuan, so such people were not worthy of human parents. It is really disgusting.
Is how much is Caoli, I always feel that it should be based on the economic basis of two families. Cai Li is originally a colorful head, for a colorful head, and it is worthless. Is it worth doing this? Once Cai Li is stated, whether it is high or low, it cannot be reversed and starts on the ground. What is the difference between this approach?
In I hope that the conclusion of every pair of marriage will not have a heart of gifts because of the gift. I also hope that parents can consider the child's happiness. Is it important for money, or is it important for children to be happy for life?

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The wedding has left a lot of custom habits since ancient times. From our relatively rare threading hydrangea, singing song songs, to our common choice, hanging curtains, banquets, and so on.
This habits bring us solemn and interesting, while also some customs and habits have brought troubles, such as colorful gifts.
The customs passed down from ancient times to thank the women's parents for raising their daughters for raising. It is the grave fee for the man to give the woman's parents. In addition, it is also a test of how good the boys are for girls. After all, if you do n’t even want to make a gift, why do the female party believe in the sincerity of this family?
But with the change of the times, Cai Li slowly changed the original and positive meaning, becoming a way for the woman to ask for the man's asset in disguise. Whether it is used by themselves, or the brothers and sisters left to the woman to marry and sell houses, they have grafted the pressure of money to the man's body, making the newcomer miserable.
Recently, A Jian encountered such helplessness. He was willing to give Cai Li money, but in the face of girls' endless request for colorful gifts, A Jian finally gave up this love unbearable. After listening to his story, I was very emotional.
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A Jian and Xiaomei are classmates in the same class in junior high school. Xiaomei is the class in the class. At that time, A Jian fell in love with Xiaomei. Although A Jian's appearance is not outstanding, A Jian's advantage is that it is particularly good for Xiaomei. Almost Xiaomei said what is and what you want.
A Jian's family has a lot of superior families. There are several sets of real estate in the family, and there are naturally a lot of pocket money. Xiaomei enjoyed the feeling of being loved by A Jian, so the two slowly walked to reaching to it. Together. For many years of love long -distance running, they finally waited for college to graduate, and they could finally talk about marriage.
Mimi has been instilled by her parents. One of them is to firmly control the economic power in her own hands in order to control the man. In other words, it is to install the money of boys into their pockets. The more more, the better, the man will be honest with himself.
Is when talking about marriage, Xiaomei used the creed of her to master the economy, and used various reasons to ask A Jian for money.
A Jian said that at the beginning, he just felt that Xiaomei could spend money, but because of his family, he could still accept it, but he slowly found that Xiaomei was a bottomless hole. A Jian was not a mess. Every time he transferred the records. Once, he was unbearable, so he turned out to check the account, which was really startled.
Is the parents of both parties for dinner, add up to about ten times, and it takes 20,000. Buy gifts for their parents four or five times and take 20,000. On your birthday, it took 5,22 red envelopes. In the New Year's festival, it also requires money. Lin Lin always has a total of 10,000 or 20,000. It takes 30,000 to take wedding photos, more than 50,000 to buy various clothes and bags, buy a car before marriage, and go to more than 200,000, and the gift money will have to go 150,000.
has not ended this marriage, and has given 400,000 to 500,000. When A Jian came back to God, the money had disappeared, and A Jian asked Xiaomei after a side knock on the side: "Is our recent expenses a bit big?" A Jian did not continue to ask.
The local customs, Cai Li is about 100,000. Although the cost of colorful gifts before marriage has been overspending, but thinking about passing the door, it is a family, and the money is almost the same. Moreover, A Jian's economic conditions are very good, and these money can be taken out. In this section of bone eyes, the conflict is not good, just marry back and live.
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soon, the wedding is here, after all, it is a lifetime of a lifetime. A Jian invited everyone who could invite, whether it was relatives, friends, or even classmates who had not contacted in elementary school for many years. Come over and set up a full 20 tables to commemorate this day.
In according to the custom, A Jian wants to go to Xiaomei's house to take Xiaomei's home. He wore a strong suit and thought about himself for so many years. Finally, he waited for the day when he married Xiaomei. Unhappy was diluted a lot.
At the family of Xiaomei, A Jian took a smile on his face, took a deep breath, suppressed the excitement in his heart, and knocked on the door: "Xiaomei, we should start!"
The door opened a seam, and Xiaomei's girlfriend stretched out one hand: "Well, Brother A Jian, but the door is to open the door."
The good red envelope passed, and it was all six hundred yuan, which was a difficult opening fee in the local area.
The red envelope passed over, the door opened, and A Jian rushed to Xiaomei's room in a hurry, twisted the goalkeeper, which was locked. Xiaomei's voice passed out: "Husband, others too I want to open the door fee. "
A A Jian didn't mind, and it was auspicious. This money was still affordable, and a thousand red envelopes were handed in. After receiving the red envelope, he said with a grievance voice, "Is this right?"
A Jian was not enough? Isn't it a good thing? Then asked, "How much do you want?"
Imei and the other are this sentence, with a slightly coquettish saying: "Husband, I want 20,000!"
After thinking of this time Xiaomei was going to go to 500,000, his tone asked: "How much?"
although Xiaomei heard that A Jian was a little unhappy, but I remembered that A Jian had never violated her wishes. I have always given what to give, and said, "For 20,000, you give me, I will open the door."
A Jian took a deep breath and put his hand into the bag, counting 20,000, Say: "Come out, 20,000 for you."
Mi thought that A Jian was compromised and walked out with a smile: "Husband, you really ..."
Just throwing money to her face: "Do you think I don't know where the money was going? Buy a dish, I gave you a thousand, you bought me only more than two hundred. Right? I will give you 10,000 yuan for you to prepare your parents' gifts. You can buy some specialties and say that your parents love to eat, right? "
" I like it You have loved money for so many years, you like money, I give you. Who knows that you are a bottomless hole. I marry you home for you to take care of this home, not for you to ask for money! "
"I don't care about the money before, just as the breakup fee I gave you, I will disappear immediately with the money, and never appear in front of me!"
Xiaomei was in place, she was in place, she was in place, she was in place. I have never seen A Jianfa such a big fire. As soon as I wanted to say something, A Jian left himself.
The marriage was not formed, because A Jian invited more than 20 tables of banquets, and it was known to women and children, and became a local joke. Xiaomei called A Jian countless times, but had been pulled up and wanted to explain to A Jian's home. As a result, the property was kicked out countless times.
In Xiaomei married abroad, because the wind also passed on, I heard that it was not so happy.
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The is not difficult to see from the story of A Jian and Xiaomei that a marriage that is good at it is made of colorful lites, and it has a good marriage.
For colorful gifts, I have a few suggestions:
1. Cai Li must be, because this is not only a custom, but also represents a boy's attention or not;
2, but the color gift cannot cause the man too much too much Das pressure, the happiness of the future is the most important;
3, don't forget, when the man expresses the sincerity of Cai Li to express their sincerity, the woman must also use the dowry to express our sincerity.
Is to grasp these three points, we can correctly use the positive significance of colorful gifts to make our marriage happier.

If your own marriage is your own life, you should make the master. Some people who do n’t live a bad feeling do n’t think about having it. Now you will do it. What should you do if you will grow in the future?