How to change the personality of the type How to change the personality of the person? Everyone always has some "old good people". They looked at the face of the people around them carefully and tremblingly, and they would not refuse. I would rather grieve themselves to become the entire opponent. This kind of person is the best object of back black pot. So how to change the personality? How to change the personality of the flattering personality 1 What is a flattering personality? First to check to see if you have a typical manifestation of the personality of the pleasure: 1. In all people as the first thing, with the feelings of others 2. Extremely restrained yourself, dare not express yourself Requirements 3. Always embarrassed to promise what you do n’t want to do, and quickly agree to anything else. 4. Even in the face of unreasonable requirements, you will be observed. Do n’t justify it. 5. He ’s fear of loneliness. Agree 7. Always apologize, because of fear of conflict, I hope the world is peaceful 8. It is often bullied and takes advantage of others In how to change the personality of the please type? 1. Preferential consideration of people who consider for you It you do n’t need to consider all people too much. You should also consider people who love you and do n’t have to care too much about irrelevant people. 2. Think about what the benefits of others have to please before catering to others, first think about what is the benefit of you doing this? If you don't do this, what's the harm to others? You do n’t please others. At most, others are a bit disdainful, and if you please others, you have to be wronged. We should learn to be serious. 3. Good for yourself This personality is good, that is, bad for yourself. When you think about others everywhere, are others like this to you? If not, then you don't need to do this. 4. Go out to make friends This can train your guts. Through you get along with others, you will also find that you are not as bad as you think, and you will gradually become less introverted. 5. Many people who trust and trust n are very easy to be depressed in their hearts, so let's talk with good friends with good friends to help stabilize emotions. 5 things that cannot be done by pleased personality: 1. Stop comparing with others I will always compare with others inadvertently. What you have to do is to stop comparing with others. While you envy others, some people may be envious of you. 2. Stopping excessive sensory is too sensible. It is actually a distressing thing. No matter what you say, you say good, never let others embarrass, but you will be embarrassed from now. "Selfish", love yourself first. 3. Stop suppressing your emotions This can cry and shout, but don't suppress yourself, because tears are more painful than crying! 4. Stop receiving unfair treatment Min always hear others say "You are big and you want to make small". No matter what others say, as long as you are unwilling, you have the right to have the right Reject others. 5. Stop delusion from ourselves and thin We have to see ourselves a bit more important. You do n’t know that you may bring a lot of energy to others. Let's not look at ourselves too easily. All we have to do is to believe in ourselves! The five acceptance: 1. Accepting their imperfections The biggest enemy of a person is themselves. You should first accept your imperfections and accept imperfect self. It is their existence that makes you more complete. Improper is actually a perfect. We must love ourselves first, and others will come to love you, know? 2. Accept the protection of others Is when anyone comes to protect you, please accept it with peace of mind. Your growth is not at the cost of getting away from everything, you are also a little angel who needs protection! 3. Accept the praise of others When someone praises you, the editor understands that because of the reason to please the personality, he will subconsciously feel inferiority, and even the joy is too obvious. From today, Start, try to accept it generously. 4. Accepting others' criticism We are all people, and we cannot satisfy everyone, so what we have to do is to keep ourselves normal, and treat themselves Those criticisms, spoils are not shocked. 5. Accept your ordinary does not need to envy those who are born with a golden spoon, and do not need to feel inferior to their ordinary. It is a good capital to be born, and the editor believes that you must have a good job. This personality strives to improve yourself: 1. Change yourself The reason for any sensitive inferiority is itself. Only by changing yourself can we fundamentally get rid of the pleasing personality. 2. Reading to enrich yourself The golden house in the book, poetry, calligraphy, calligraphy and painting are true! Only the head is content, and the sense of security on the spiritual level is more real. 3. Control the diet In addition to doing more exercise, you also have to eat healthy, do not overeating. Often detect your weight, don't want to be too arrogant, because a good body and healthy body can improve your confidence and help you get rid of the pleasing personality. 4. Beauty that is calm In addition to going to bed early and getting up early, you also have to learn to smile at yourself every day, take skin care, make makeup, and enhance clothing. In short Beautiful way! 5. Save money for yourself The moment when you can use money to defend your dignity, we don’t need to look at the face of others for money, and there will be more. The confidence. We don't have to save hundreds of thousands, but we must guarantee three months of expenses when you leave. If you are also pleased by personality, then start a little change from today. Do not let yourself be full, try to love yourself, and become more confident! How how to change the personality of the person to change the personality? This personality derived from the inner inferiority and fear. They have not received unconditional love and enough attention since childhood. The so -called unconditional love refers to the unconditional love for the supporter. They rarely because you do not expect what you expect to do, indifferent to you, accusing you, and punishing you. The child is actually very smart, and he can feel the emotions of his parents keenly. When he comes back from get out of class and does not do his homework and runs out, his parents will blame him; when he takes a high score, his parents will praise him. So he knew which behaviors could please his parents. For example: Morb parents like to be well -behaved, so he becomes sensible; Ird parents like children with good academic performance, so he works hard to improve his grades; The parents like lively children, so so He always thought about how to make his parents laugh. The so -called sufficient attention means that the supporters cannot give children enough attention because their ability is limited. The sensitive child is likely to use her young body to comfort the supporters because she thinks it is her responsibility. Although Xiaoqin was born in a wealthy family, the family is a male light and daughter. Her birth seems to be a mistake in the family. Each family has a disappointment on the face, and they also vent this resentment in the life. Qin's mother. The mother who received unfair treatment is very hateful to Xiaoqin's identity, which is very harsh to her. So Xiaoqin saw his mother, always full of resentment and even sad. When the mother cried very sad, she would wipe her mother with her little hand, and only at this time the mother's eyes would show goodwill. Later, when Xiaoqin was 8 years old, his brother was born. The family members are very happy, and the attitude of her mother is also better. Mom is more and more energetic. She no longer needs Xiaoqin. At the same time, her mother's attention is placed on her brother. Xiaoqin is a little jealous of his brother, because his brother can enjoy a lot of pets from the elders, and she hates her brother, because her brother snatched her mother's attention to herself. of course, she has no courage to fight against her brother, and can only work hard to help her mother take care of her brother, so that her mother can see her and praise her sensible. In order to be praised by her mother, Xiaoqin worked hard to please her brother, because the younger brother was happy, and the mother was happy. is such a flattering childhood that allows Xiaoqin to continue the flattering model, buy a small gift for classmates, help the class teacher to accept homework, and run legs for colleagues ... I. The friendly eyes, every time someone's rejection and negation of her, can make her uneasy for a long time, so she worked more to cater to each other and change this bad state. In order to maintain the beautiful image in their minds, she always pays attention to the emotions of others, which behavior will make them smile with satisfactory smiles. 01 This a girl who impresses me Xiaoqin, a girl from a wealthy family, but her story is shocked by my heart. one day, she talked to me in pain: "I'm tangled, I know to please those who obviously don't like me, but I can't help it." N said that I like a boy. Although I know he is not interested in me, I still can't help paying attention to his life preferences, like what he likes, and strive to make himself look like. The girl who likes short hair, I cut my long hair; This he likes green tea, all the things I buy are green tea flavor; His latest keyboard. I thought I could see what he was touched by me, but I didn't expect to exchange a sentence "Don't entangle me again in the future." I dare not see him anymore. But whenever he asked me to come out ... I still thought about which clothes he liked to wear. I I heard her crying cavity, like a balloon filled with nitrogen, but weakness was broken at any time, and it was about to be fragmented in an instant. "Every night is quiet every night, thinking about my words and deeds during the day, I feel that I am particularly charming, but I can't change it. I feel like a puppet, and I am input." In the emotion, the boy who loves but can't get along with her colleagues and colleagues is also careful in her work. She is afraid of being isolated by colleagues around her, so she actively helps colleagues to order takeaway, send documents, and live. In life, when her thoughts are different from others, she will choose to concentrate rather than controversy. Things. In in -depth exchanges with her, I found that she couldn't tolerate the slightest fault in the eyes of others. She was particularly afraid of conflict and worried about others' annoyance. . She told me that she wanted to be a person who was praised by everyone. When she saw others showing a sincere smile because of herself, her heart was greatly satisfied. . She has a Virgin heart. She wants to do her best to realize that "everyone is good, and there is no desire to conflict in the world." but she also has a glass heart, and others have a unhappy look. She is like an enemy, very anxious, and she is worried about whether she has done something wrong again to make the other person angry. In from small to large, in the process of expression, she must consider each sentence, afraid of where there is no decent place, but no matter what time period, childhood, school, company, and her will appear around her. Several people hated her, even if she doubled to these people, she still had to come to their contempt. 02 I observed some phenomena and reflection I found that in the face of people who do not like themselves, different people have different mentality, but most of them are these three types: anxiety, fear of fear, fear ,calm. 1. anxious people choose to please. as they tend to meet the needs of people who do not like themselves, pretend to be friendly to tolerate these people, they want to show each other "I am a kind and large person, it doesn't matter if you don’t like me, I will use me to use me. "It is good to influence you", so as to change their impression of their own bad impression of themselves. 2. People who are afraid choose to escape. can't afford it, I can hide. They dare not face those who don't like themselves. They think that someone who doesn't like themselves is definitely not good enough, but in general, we can't accept this side that we are not good enough, so we choose not to contact these people. 3. Consident people choose to accept. I once asked a colleague, "Will you be sad in the face of people who don't like you?" . She smiled and said, "It's a bit sad, but so many people in the world, everyone's personality is Different, I am not Renminbi, it ’s normal for someone to do n’t like me!” The colleague is very optimistic, in the face of a high -pressure consulting industry, she still lives very comfortably. Happy, with her, I feel very relaxed. Obviously, people who can accept themselves are the most comfortable. At the same time, they can also pass this comfort to others. Therefore, if you want to make others feel comfortable and recognize your value, the practice is not blindly flattering. In analysis of the perspective of mentality, people will feel guilty and shame. When a person comes to kneeling and licking, he may refuse and may accept the goodness of the other party, but he will have a strong sense of guilt and shame in his heart. In order to protect himself, he will make this guilt and shame The heart transforms into an attack, and even more attacking this person who pleases themselves. So the person who pleased the type will be more aggrieved in their hearts. While hate those who hate themselves, they will continue to please each other, because pleased it is the most comfortable model she thinks to get along with those who hates herself, because "pleased" It was the only way she knew. . When they know that someone does not like themselves, they are like being splashed on a pot of ice water, or they feel like someone else. , Warm and lick the wound, and finally have more hate to those who hate themselves. At the same time, they will constantly doubt themselves and deny whether they are not good enough to make others tired.
How to change the personality of the type
How to change the personality of the person? Everyone always has some "old good people". They looked at the face of the people around them carefully and tremblingly, and they would not refuse. I would rather grieve themselves to become the entire opponent. This kind of person is the best object of back black pot. So how to change the personality?
How to change the personality of the flattering personality 1 What is a flattering personality?
First to check to see if you have a typical manifestation of the personality of the pleasure:
1. In all people as the first thing, with the feelings of others 2. Extremely restrained yourself, dare not express yourself Requirements 3. Always embarrassed to promise what you do n’t want to do, and quickly agree to anything else. 4. Even in the face of unreasonable requirements, you will be observed. Do n’t justify it. 5. He ’s fear of loneliness. Agree 7. Always apologize, because of fear of conflict, I hope the world is peaceful 8. It is often bullied and takes advantage of others
In how to change the personality of the please type?
1. Preferential consideration of people who consider for you
It you do n’t need to consider all people too much. You should also consider people who love you and do n’t have to care too much about irrelevant people.
2. Think about what the benefits of others have to please
before catering to others, first think about what is the benefit of you doing this? If you don't do this, what's the harm to others? You do n’t please others. At most, others are a bit disdainful, and if you please others, you have to be wronged. We should learn to be serious.
3. Good for yourself
This personality is good, that is, bad for yourself. When you think about others everywhere, are others like this to you? If not, then you don't need to do this.
4. Go out to make friends
This can train your guts. Through you get along with others, you will also find that you are not as bad as you think, and you will gradually become less introverted.
5. Many people who trust and trust n are very easy to be depressed in their hearts, so let's talk with good friends with good friends to help stabilize emotions.
5 things that cannot be done by pleased personality:
1. Stop comparing with others
I will always compare with others inadvertently. What you have to do is to stop comparing with others. While you envy others, some people may be envious of you.
2. Stopping excessive sensory
is too sensible. It is actually a distressing thing. No matter what you say, you say good, never let others embarrass, but you will be embarrassed from now. "Selfish", love yourself first.
3. Stop suppressing your emotions
This can cry and shout, but don't suppress yourself, because tears are more painful than crying!
4. Stop receiving unfair treatment
Min always hear others say "You are big and you want to make small". No matter what others say, as long as you are unwilling, you have the right to have the right Reject others.
5. Stop delusion from ourselves and thin
We have to see ourselves a bit more important. You do n’t know that you may bring a lot of energy to others. Let's not look at ourselves too easily. All we have to do is to believe in ourselves!
The five acceptance:
1. Accepting their imperfections
The biggest enemy of a person is themselves. You should first accept your imperfections and accept imperfect self. It is their existence that makes you more complete. Improper is actually a perfect. We must love ourselves first, and others will come to love you, know?
2. Accept the protection of others
Is when anyone comes to protect you, please accept it with peace of mind. Your growth is not at the cost of getting away from everything, you are also a little angel who needs protection!
3. Accept the praise of others
When someone praises you, the editor understands that because of the reason to please the personality, he will subconsciously feel inferiority, and even the joy is too obvious. From today, Start, try to accept it generously.
4. Accepting others' criticism
We are all people, and we cannot satisfy everyone, so what we have to do is to keep ourselves normal, and treat themselves Those criticisms, spoils are not shocked.
5. Accept your ordinary
does not need to envy those who are born with a golden spoon, and do not need to feel inferior to their ordinary. It is a good capital to be born, and the editor believes that you must have a good job.
This personality strives to improve yourself:
1. Change yourself
The reason for any sensitive inferiority is itself. Only by changing yourself can we fundamentally get rid of the pleasing personality.
2. Reading to enrich yourself
The golden house in the book, poetry, calligraphy, calligraphy and painting are true! Only the head is content, and the sense of security on the spiritual level is more real.
3. Control the diet
In addition to doing more exercise, you also have to eat healthy, do not overeating. Often detect your weight, don't want to be too arrogant, because a good body and healthy body can improve your confidence and help you get rid of the pleasing personality.
4. Beauty that is calm
In addition to going to bed early and getting up early, you also have to learn to smile at yourself every day, take skin care, make makeup, and enhance clothing. In short Beautiful way!
5. Save money for yourself
The moment when you can use money to defend your dignity, we don’t need to look at the face of others for money, and there will be more. The confidence. We don't have to save hundreds of thousands, but we must guarantee three months of expenses when you leave.
If you are also pleased by personality, then start a little change from today. Do not let yourself be full, try to love yourself, and become more confident!
How how to change the personality of the person to change the personality?
This personality derived from the inner inferiority and fear. They have not received unconditional love and enough attention since childhood.
The so -called unconditional love refers to the unconditional love for the supporter. They rarely because you do not expect what you expect to do, indifferent to you, accusing you, and punishing you.
The child is actually very smart, and he can feel the emotions of his parents keenly. When he comes back from get out of class and does not do his homework and runs out, his parents will blame him; when he takes a high score, his parents will praise him. So he knew which behaviors could please his parents. For example:
Morb parents like to be well -behaved, so he becomes sensible;
Ird parents like children with good academic performance, so he works hard to improve his grades;
The parents like lively children, so so He always thought about how to make his parents laugh.
The so -called sufficient attention means that the supporters cannot give children enough attention because their ability is limited. The sensitive child is likely to use her young body to comfort the supporters because she thinks it is her responsibility.
Although Xiaoqin was born in a wealthy family, the family is a male light and daughter. Her birth seems to be a mistake in the family. Each family has a disappointment on the face, and they also vent this resentment in the life. Qin's mother.
The mother who received unfair treatment is very hateful to Xiaoqin's identity, which is very harsh to her. So Xiaoqin saw his mother, always full of resentment and even sad.
When the mother cried very sad, she would wipe her mother with her little hand, and only at this time the mother's eyes would show goodwill.
Later, when Xiaoqin was 8 years old, his brother was born. The family members are very happy, and the attitude of her mother is also better. Mom is more and more energetic. She no longer needs Xiaoqin. At the same time, her mother's attention is placed on her brother.
Xiaoqin is a little jealous of his brother, because his brother can enjoy a lot of pets from the elders, and she hates her brother, because her brother snatched her mother's attention to herself.
of course, she has no courage to fight against her brother, and can only work hard to help her mother take care of her brother, so that her mother can see her and praise her sensible. In order to be praised by her mother, Xiaoqin worked hard to please her brother, because the younger brother was happy, and the mother was happy.
is such a flattering childhood that allows Xiaoqin to continue the flattering model, buy a small gift for classmates, help the class teacher to accept homework, and run legs for colleagues ...
I. The friendly eyes, every time someone's rejection and negation of her, can make her uneasy for a long time, so she worked more to cater to each other and change this bad state.
In order to maintain the beautiful image in their minds, she always pays attention to the emotions of others, which behavior will make them smile with satisfactory smiles.
01
This a girl who impresses me
Xiaoqin, a girl from a wealthy family, but her story is shocked by my heart.
one day, she talked to me in pain:
"I'm tangled, I know to please those who obviously don't like me, but I can't help it." N said that I like a boy. Although I know he is not interested in me, I still can't help paying attention to his life preferences, like what he likes, and strive to make himself look like.
The girl who likes short hair, I cut my long hair;
This he likes green tea, all the things I buy are green tea flavor;
His latest keyboard.
I thought I could see what he was touched by me, but I didn't expect to exchange a sentence
"Don't entangle me again in the future."
I dare not see him anymore.
But whenever he asked me to come out ... I still thought about which clothes he liked to wear.
I I heard her crying cavity, like a balloon filled with nitrogen, but weakness was broken at any time, and it was about to be fragmented in an instant.
"Every night is quiet every night, thinking about my words and deeds during the day, I feel that I am particularly charming, but I can't change it. I feel like a puppet, and I am input." In the emotion, the boy who loves but can't get along with her colleagues and colleagues is also careful in her work. She is afraid of being isolated by colleagues around her, so she actively helps colleagues to order takeaway, send documents, and live.
In life, when her thoughts are different from others, she will choose to concentrate rather than controversy. Things.
In in -depth exchanges with her, I found that she couldn't tolerate the slightest fault in the eyes of others. She was particularly afraid of conflict and worried about others' annoyance.
. She told me that she wanted to be a person who was praised by everyone. When she saw others showing a sincere smile because of herself, her heart was greatly satisfied.
. She has a Virgin heart. She wants to do her best to realize that "everyone is good, and there is no desire to conflict in the world."
but she also has a glass heart, and others have a unhappy look. She is like an enemy, very anxious, and she is worried about whether she has done something wrong again to make the other person angry.
In from small to large, in the process of expression, she must consider each sentence, afraid of where there is no decent place, but no matter what time period, childhood, school, company, and her will appear around her. Several people hated her, even if she doubled to these people, she still had to come to their contempt.
02
I observed some phenomena and reflection
I found that in the face of people who do not like themselves, different people have different mentality, but most of them are these three types: anxiety, fear of fear, fear ,calm.
1. anxious people choose to please.
as they tend to meet the needs of people who do not like themselves, pretend to be friendly to tolerate these people, they want to show each other "I am a kind and large person, it doesn't matter if you don’t like me, I will use me to use me. "It is good to influence you", so as to change their impression of their own bad impression of themselves.
2. People who are afraid choose to escape.
can't afford it, I can hide. They dare not face those who don't like themselves. They think that someone who doesn't like themselves is definitely not good enough, but in general, we can't accept this side that we are not good enough, so we choose not to contact these people.
3. Consident people choose to accept.
I once asked a colleague, "Will you be sad in the face of people who don't like you?"
. She smiled and said, "It's a bit sad, but so many people in the world, everyone's personality is Different, I am not Renminbi, it ’s normal for someone to do n’t like me!”
The colleague is very optimistic, in the face of a high -pressure consulting industry, she still lives very comfortably. Happy, with her, I feel very relaxed.
Obviously, people who can accept themselves are the most comfortable. At the same time, they can also pass this comfort to others.
Therefore, if you want to make others feel comfortable and recognize your value, the practice is not blindly flattering.
In analysis of the perspective of mentality, people will feel guilty and shame. When a person comes to kneeling and licking, he may refuse and may accept the goodness of the other party, but he will have a strong sense of guilt and shame in his heart. In order to protect himself, he will make this guilt and shame The heart transforms into an attack, and even more attacking this person who pleases themselves.
So the person who pleased the type will be more aggrieved in their hearts. While hate those who hate themselves, they will continue to please each other, because pleased it is the most comfortable model she thinks to get along with those who hates herself, because "pleased" It was the only way she knew.
. When they know that someone does not like themselves, they are like being splashed on a pot of ice water, or they feel like someone else. , Warm and lick the wound, and finally have more hate to those who hate themselves. At the same time, they will constantly doubt themselves and deny whether they are not good enough to make others tired.